Women veterans face job and family challenges, plus prejudice back at home

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A photo of Sandor, her husband, Tony, and daughter Makenna, 17 months, sits in their home in Canton, Ohio. “I don’t regret joining because I have a whole family through the military, I have so many connections and I have my husband,” Sandor said. “And because I have my husband, I have my daughter and I would not give her up for anything.”

The fight to feel like a veteran – and to get the benefits a veteran deserves – weighs heavily on female soldiers returning from war.

Their numbers are historic –  with more than 280,000 returning from deployments in Iraq and Afghanistan in the last decade – but their opportunities are fewer than those of their male colleagues and their challenges different.

A News21 demographic analysis found that 17.4 percent of post 9/11 Iraq and Afghanistan war veterans are women and more than a quarter of female veterans are black.  Despite their numbers and their service, women veterans are less likely to find a job than male veterans and more likely to be a single parent with children to support, interviews and records show.

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Women veterans also have returned return to a nation that historically defines “veteran” as male ; in the post-9/11 era, that has meant a lack of female-specific resources at VA facilities across the country.

A Purple Heart recipient returns home to Ohio
Ohio Army National Guard veteran Crystal Sandor, 28, holds her daughter Makenna in their home. Sandor and her husband are not opposed to their daughter joining the military, but they said they hope the disparity between men and women will be eliminated when, and if, Makenna should choose to enlist.

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Ohio Army National Guard veteran Crystal Sandor, 28, holds her daughter Makenna in their home. Sandor and her husband are not opposed to their daughter joining the military, but they said they hope the disparity between men and women will be eliminated when, and if, Makenna should choose to enlist.

Army National Guard Spc. Crystal Sandor had muscled a five-ton truck through the ragtag roads of Iraq and likely would be dead from an exploding fireball had the four-foot-ten-inch soldier been a few centimeters taller.

Sandor has struggled to get the care she expected from the military since the night she nearly died – June 18, 2004.

She was a driver in a 20-truck convoy during a night mission in Iraq.  She was razzing a fellow soldier about spilling sunflower seeds, a staple during their missions together when a fireball from a roadside bomb came head-on toward their truck.

Sandor woke up pounding on her chest to make sure she was alive. She couldn’t see, couldn’t hear but she kept driving.

“If I was that much taller,” Sandor says, putting mere centimeters between her thumb and forefinger, “I wouldn’t be alive.”

She was awarded a Purple Heart for her valor, but had to prove to the Army that she deserved it.

After the accident and while still in Iraq, Sandor discovered her superiors lost the paperwork documenting the attack, meaning there was no official record that it ever happened.

“The only reason I have the disability (rating) I have is because I was smart enough to have a video camera on me and we recorded the damage to the truck and we took pictures of everything,” she said. “That is the only reason I have a Purple Heart or disability.”

Now,  home in Ohio, she doesn’t feel much like a soldier. She’s teased and treated with skepticism about her service, even by fellow veterans. At one outing to the Department of Veterans Affairs office in Akron,  gray-haired male veterans asked her “What did you do  over there?  Did you sell Girl Scout cookies?”

In contrast, when Sandor’s husband goes to the VA, he gets handshakes and “thank you for your service” accolades in the waiting room.

Since Sandor’s return home in March 2005, she’s been at odds with the Ohio VA system over her treatment.

During her first appointment later that year, she said the VA doctor seemed skeptical of her injuries, treating her as if she never left the base. When she was asked about treatment options, Sandor requested therapy to talk about the attack that injured her. Instead, she left with three prescriptions for anxiety and to help her sleep.  She said she stopped taking the medications because she said they made her feel like a “zombie.”

“I don’t think I’ve talked to one female veteran who goes to the VA who has had a good experience, that has been treated and received the care that they deserve,” Sandor said.

“I think because the VA has dealt with men for so long, through all the previous wars, they’re not set up to handle females. But we’ve been at this war for 10 years, it’s about time they figure it out,” she said.

She tried group therapy at the VA, but was placed in an all-male group. She left each session feeling guilty, not better, about herself because of the horror stories the men told.

For the last eight years, Sandor has bounced between her civilian doctor and the VA to prove the extent of her injuries – such as the post-traumatic stress disorder the VA denied, but her civilian doctor insists she has. She also has ringing in her ears, severe arthritis in her knees, hearing and vision loss, herniated disks, a deviated septum and a brain lesion. She has a 40 percent disability rating.

A 2013 Institute of Medicine report found that women in combat-support roles, like men, experience intense warfare and constant threats on their lives, but the implications of this trauma for women has been overlooked.

“Historically, research on the health of veterans has focused on the health consequences of combat service in men, and there has been little scientific research . . . of the health consequences of military service in women who served,” according to the report.

Currently, 360,000 women use VA medical services, but the number is expected to double as more women come home and seek care,  said Dr. Patricia Hayes, chief consultant of Women’s Health Services at the VA in Washington, D.C.

As of 2008, only 33 percent of the 152 VA medical centers had clinics specific to women, records show.  Now, about 75 percent offer at least some type of female-specific care, Hayes said.

Sandor is trying not to focus on her concerns about the VA. She focuses instead on raising her 17-month-old daughter and on volunteering with her husband’s National Guard unit. She’s also  pursuing a degree in public health from Kent State University; she used the Post-9/11 GI Bill to pay for online classes from KSU.

It’s been nine years since that roadside bomb nearly killed her, but her PTSD continues to creep into her civilian life both physically and emotionally.

“A lot of people are still like, ‘Why does it bother you? It’s been eight years, get over it,’ ” Sandor said. “It doesn’t go away. It’s with you the rest of your life. I mean, the severity of it might – how much you remember of it might – but that feeling, it’s always there.”

Finding employment’s not easy, even with high-quality skills
Hannah Siska holds her daughter Aurora, 1, in the dining room of their home in Ohio. After her second deployment to Iraq, Siska had a “quarter-life crisis” and realized she wanted kids; she also has a 3-year-old son, Ethan.

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Hannah Siska holds her daughter Aurora, 1, in the dining room of their home in Ohio. After her second deployment to Iraq, Siska had a “quarter-life crisis” and realized she wanted kids; she also has a 3-year-old son, Ethan.

When Hannah Siska left the Marines in 2011, she expected to find a job with the skills she acquired during her five years of service.   She had strong leadership skills. She had high security clearance.

Still,  she couldn’t get a job, even with her training as a special communications signals collection operator and analyst.  Siska applied for more than 150 jobs posted on Department of Defense websites geared toward applicants with security clearances. The result always was the same.

“They want to hire vets that are males, not females, and that was very apparent,” said Siska, who was deployed to Iraq in 2008 and 2009. “I had everything and my resume looked just like all the other guys that got jobs and I didn’t.”

In September 2012, the unemployment rate for post-9/11 female veterans hit a high of 19.9 percent, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics. The average unemployment rate for female veterans for all of 2012 was 12.5 percent, still 3 percentage points higher than the average for male veterans that year.

“Unfortunately when female veterans come home they aren’t perceived as women warriors,” said John Pickens III, a Vietnam veteran and the executive director of VeteransPlus, a nonprofit offering financial counseling to service members.

A woman’s military experience isn’t seen as suitable for civilian life, despite the fact that they learned the same skills as their male counterparts, he said.

“They can’t enjoy the life they’ve fought to defend and there’s a lot of pride there,” he said.

When she joined in 2006, Siska said,  her superiors and fellow Marines gave her extra responsibilities because they trusted her judgment and work ethic. She sought a higher rank, but was not promoted. She left the Marines.

“I loved it, and I loved the people, I loved what I did, I just didn’t like the political aspect behind being able to move up,” she said.

She described the Marines as “old fashioned,” and based on a ranking system that emphasizes running and shooting scores. This mindset hinders the Marines, she said, because it discourages women from joining.

In 2009, women made up 19.5 percent of officers and enlisted members in the Air Force, but only 6.4 percent of all Marines, according to the Pew Research Center.

Now, Siska is working on a biochemistry degree at Kent State University while caring for two young children. Her goal is to go to medical school and serve in the Navy.

“I want to be a career person and I want to accomplish things and feel like I’m contributing to society or a community or just my family,” she said.

Adjusting to civilian life, with memories good and bad
Shapiro walks through a park behind her apartment on her way to church service. "I wasn't killed overseas and my legs didn't have to amputated so I figured I better walk as much as possible," she said.

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Shapiro walks through a park behind her apartment on her way to church service. "I wasn't killed overseas and my legs didn't have to amputated so I figured I better walk as much as possible," she said.

Other than when she is in a Kent State classroom, Aribella Shapiro is always by herself. She walks everywhere because she doesn’t have a car – to school, to Walmart, to the Kent Church of Christ.

On one Sunday, she leaves at least 45 minutes before the 10:45 a.m. service. The dewy grass sticks to her brown suede and rubber boots with fur around the top. She says the boots remind her of being in the Army.

She cuts across the lawn of another church, passes campus, stops to get a Frappuccino at Starbucks and zigzags past Main Street and over to the church.

They’re finishing a Bible study and moving on to the main worship service when she comes in and sits at the back of the 14-pew church. There are fewer than 20 people in the church; Shapiro is one of about three under the age of 35. She said she likes to try out different churches, and wants to connect somewhere so God knows she’s thankful.

“I’m proud because I’m alive and I’m all in one piece,” said the 32-year-old. “I have a lot of friends who have died due to the war and I wasn’t one of them. I’m proud that I fought for America.”

But she’s not proud of everything about the military.  Her experience was marred profoundly when she was raped by a superior officer.

“I didn’t tell anyone because I felt embarrassed,” she said, explaining that her rapist threatened to kill her if she said anything. “I cried for months.”

The crying stopped, she explains, because she talked with other women who experienced similar scenarios, and she realized her story was not unique.

The Department of Defense’s Sexual Assault Prevention and Response Office estimates that 26,000 cases of sexual assault or unwanted sexual contact occurred in the military in fiscal 2012.  Of those cases, 3,374 cases were reported, according to that office.

Shapiro joined the Army, knowing her stint would pay her way through college. The Post-9/11 GI Bill brought her to Kent and it’s where she feels the most confident – sitting in class, studying for an exam or helping other students with their homework.

The Post-9/11 GI Bill offers an education to those who served after Sept. 10, 2001, and has paid for nearly 1 million veterans to go to school.

Post-9/11 female veterans who have a high school equivalent degree outperform non-veterans when it comes to post-secondary degree attainment, according to a News21 analysis.

But many women veterans returning home to student life juggle other challenges. Only 15 percent of student veterans are traditional college-aged students. About 47 percent have children and nearly that same percentage are married.

“We think that women veterans don’t necessarily want to be identified solely as veterans, as a special group, they want to be identified as women students and adult learners,” said Rachel Anderson, director of the Center for Adult and Veteran Services at Kent State University.

Researchers at The Independent Budget – an annual VA budget and policy analysis prepared by independent veterans service organizations – found that women veterans have a difficult time finding support systems upon returning home. Some women reported feeling isolated, and for others this feeling is made worse by the college atmosphere.

Aribella Shapiro’s life is lonelier than she would like. She dreams of getting her bachelor’s and master’s degrees to teach English overseas, maybe even in Kuwait where she was stationed in 2004. Only this time she wants to go as “friend, not foe.”

Alone in her apartment, Shapiro misses the men and women she served with in the Army. She’s trying to make connections with students in her classes, by looking for a roommate and with people like the barista at Starbucks.

But going from being in the Army to being by herself is difficult especially, as a single person, she said. And when asked if she felt welcomed home, Shapiro answered immediately: “No.”

She described the TV shows that show soldiers coming home to their families and the emotional reunions that cue tears and hugs.

“What about us soldiers that were single and we don’t have a family to come home to? Why can’t you appreciate us for what we do too?” she said.

A soldier and a mother
Army veteran Briana Hawkes, 25, sits with her daughter Aubrey, 3, outside Hawkes' parents' home in Bristolville, Ohio. When Hawkes was deployed, Aubrey “was trying to reach her hands out to hold me or for me to pick her up and I was like, ‘I can’t!’ It’s hard for you to explain something like that to a 1-year-old child,” she said. But now she’s used to it, she understands a lot more.”

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Army veteran Briana Hawkes, 25, sits with her daughter Aubrey, 3, outside Hawkes' parents' home in Bristolville, Ohio. When Hawkes was deployed, Aubrey “was trying to reach her hands out to hold me or for me to pick her up and I was like, ‘I can’t!’ It’s hard for you to explain something like that to a 1-year-old child,” she said. But now she’s used to it, she understands a lot more.”

Briana Hawkes’ Army dress blues hang pressed and ready in her parents’ basement in Bristolville, Ohio.

The basement is where Hawkes is living for the next two-and-a-half years. She converted it into her own studio apartment while she’s home and is willing to hang her clothes on a metal rod suspended from the ceiling because she knows it’s only temporary.

The 25-year-old single mother served as an E-5 supply sergeant in Kandahar, Afghanistan, in 2012 and is home to use the Post-9/11 GI Bill to get her degree and join the ROTC program at Kent State. After she graduates and becomes a commissioned officer, Hawkes plans to re-enter the Army and continue her military career.

According to the Iraq and Afghanistan Veterans of America (IAVA), many women are raising children while they are deployed. More than 40 percent of women on active duty have children and more than 30,000 single mothers have deployed to Iraq and Afghanistan since 2009.

“Especially as more women are involved and we see continued deployments we need to be cognizant how deployments are impacting families,” said Kate O’Gorman, political director at IAVA.  “We have to make sure that service members that deploy can’t be worried about their kids constantly. There needs to be a strong system at home so they can execute their job overseas.”

But parents still will worry – both during and after deployment.

Hawkes was young to hold the rank of E-5 supply sergeant. She was typically in charge of soldiers with at least six years on her, she said, and it wasn’t easy to achieve that level of leadership.

“It’s really cut-throat out there,” Hawkes said, describing the way some sergeants stop soldiers from moving up in rank because they don’t want to be passed up. “I’ve seen it and I’ve been through it and I’ve conquered it.”

Coming home to get a degree and care for her daughter is a major contrast to the rigor of her military lifestyle. She is used to straight lines, strict rules and order. But on campus, students walk around wearing whatever they want, smoking and talking on their cell phones.

You’re not allowed to do that in the Army.

Thinking about going back to the Army in two-and-a-half years is hard, especially after spending concentrated time with her 3-year-old daughter, but Hawkes says  it’s a decision she’s going to stand by.

“I plan on going until there’s no more go in me,” she said. “If that is one star, two star, I’m not stopping . . . I have a daughter to take care of and I know she’s going to have needs and college so I’m going to provide.”

Asha Anchan was a Peter Kiewit Foundation Fellow, Kelsey Hightower an Ethics and Excellence in Journalism Foundation Fellow and Caitlin Cruz a Women & Philanthropy Fellow for News21 this summer.

Back Home: The Challenges Facing Post-9/11 Veterans Returning from the Wars in Iraq and Afghanistan” was produced by News21, a national investigative reporting project involving top college journalism students across the country and headquartered at the Walter Cronkite School of Journalism and Mass Communication at Arizona State University. News21 is funded by the John S. and James L. Knight Foundation and the Carnegie Corporation. The Ethics and Excellence in Journalism Foundation, the Hearst Foundations, the Donald W. Reynolds Foundation, Women & Philanthropy at ASU and the Peter Kiewit Foundation funded the work of individual fellows. 

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